As I said, I was cleaning up myself.
My dear friend M-san had passed his surgery and hopefully he will recover soon!
早く良くなってください！
Really hope he'll be fine because he was also my sheesha buddy and when I saw him, he is not looking 元気！
So Ms. A sent me a message saying M-san was fine and the surgery was successful.
And the next thing happened was my phone display popped "Message full".
What do you do when you see such message? DELETE OLD MESSAGES!
Under normal circumstances, I will just skim through and delete all, I almost did the same this time.
But...I think too much...
I re-read my inbox and outbox dated from November 2008 to February 2009. Well friends that got updated would guessed the details of messages during this period of time.
Hmmmm...they ranged from lovey dovey to painfully silent, made me wonder people's relationship are so light and fragile. Then, I think a step further, if I felt my heart going up and down from these messages, she would probably feel the same when she read messages from the previous aka current.
So, it's fair. Or I'm thinking too much.
Hope he's not too bad of a guy, even if he is, hope he's really what you want.
I can only act the family role and to support all your decisions and welcome you back with open arms and open hearts no matter you succeed or failed. =)
I think I think too much.
"Cry me a river, build a bridge, and fucking get over it!"-Ernie-
chee chee
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Fortune Cookies~
Last Monday, I took 3 fortune cookies and broke them before, during and after my dinner.
They all turn out to be awesome messages, but what happen that same night was not really close to awesome. My ex-girl friend finally broke the news that her heart was with her ex-boyfriend, or well, current boyfriend.
It was not too surprising, but the fact that she told me several weeks after they got back together, amazed me. Well we broke up like 6-7 weeks ago and I might be very emotional during that several weeks, but I think I will feel better if she told me earlier, instead of trying every possible way to make a fool out of myself the past month.
I like to observe people and make my own predictions. I like to see the both extremes of a person, For the worst and the best.
I let it go peacefully not because I blame her or sympathize myself, but because I like her and I would like to see her in her best.
Lately I've been swimming, watching dramas, and cleaning up myself to restart my life.
The thing with Lawrence is it belittles you, it covers you with minute problems and eventually makes you lost track of life.
I'd always been out of the bubble, but I fell in it and now I need to take a step back.
I started to have great aspirations again, I wanted to be special again, I want my confidence back. So yesterday, I picked up 3 fortune cookies again. (The rule to this is always add "in-bed" behind.)
First cookie: Give a hug to someone who needs one more than you----- in bed.
Second cookie: Nothing will get in the way of your desire to succeed. Keep at it!----in bed.
Final cookie: You have enough energy and enthusiasm for two people-------in bed. =P
HaHaHaHaHa, Now I wonder what's ahead for me...
Notice I used many "I's" in this post, because everybody cares about "I" the most, and I'm still sticking with that principle. Even caring for others, we are putting our own feel good factor or reputation in hand. No, don't give me that you genuinely feel that way, if you would be brutally honest and skip all those superficial values, you know you're doing those things to make yourself look good. Which is much better than doing bad things to others to make yourself look good!
"I had never given up on you. Because you want me to, I let it go for I like you enough to not be selfish this time."
If you guys want something special to kill time, watchJapanese Drama "Love Shuffle", it is somehow different from conventional stuff.
Till then~
Chee chee
They all turn out to be awesome messages, but what happen that same night was not really close to awesome. My ex-girl friend finally broke the news that her heart was with her ex-boyfriend, or well, current boyfriend.
It was not too surprising, but the fact that she told me several weeks after they got back together, amazed me. Well we broke up like 6-7 weeks ago and I might be very emotional during that several weeks, but I think I will feel better if she told me earlier, instead of trying every possible way to make a fool out of myself the past month.
I like to observe people and make my own predictions. I like to see the both extremes of a person, For the worst and the best.
I let it go peacefully not because I blame her or sympathize myself, but because I like her and I would like to see her in her best.
Lately I've been swimming, watching dramas, and cleaning up myself to restart my life.
The thing with Lawrence is it belittles you, it covers you with minute problems and eventually makes you lost track of life.
I'd always been out of the bubble, but I fell in it and now I need to take a step back.
I started to have great aspirations again, I wanted to be special again, I want my confidence back. So yesterday, I picked up 3 fortune cookies again. (The rule to this is always add "in-bed" behind.)
First cookie: Give a hug to someone who needs one more than you----- in bed.
Second cookie: Nothing will get in the way of your desire to succeed. Keep at it!----in bed.
Final cookie: You have enough energy and enthusiasm for two people-------in bed. =P
HaHaHaHaHa, Now I wonder what's ahead for me...
Notice I used many "I's" in this post, because everybody cares about "I" the most, and I'm still sticking with that principle. Even caring for others, we are putting our own feel good factor or reputation in hand. No, don't give me that you genuinely feel that way, if you would be brutally honest and skip all those superficial values, you know you're doing those things to make yourself look good. Which is much better than doing bad things to others to make yourself look good!
"I had never given up on you. Because you want me to, I let it go for I like you enough to not be selfish this time."
If you guys want something special to kill time, watch
Till then~
Chee chee
Friday, February 20, 2009
It took me a while.
Normally when I update, means I have something to share.
Today's topic is - big city syndrome.
In a big city, life is hectic and everyone has so much going on.
You will need friends with you, and you fall back to your family, and you are struggling to live your own life.
So where does this situation position your romantic partner or relationship?
People from big city are light and casual in relationship. Well, casual here does not mean casually make love, or since it's casual, should just label it as sexual intercourse. But casual as in not giving too much priority in romantic relationship.
I worship the casual idea all along. I insist that one person can fall in love with multiple people at the same time. However, keeping too much distance with a romantic partner might make it Lust rather than Love.
*Picture does not depict specific city in question*
New York, Tokyo, or Shanghai has a population more than 10million people.
What am I coming to?
In my opinion, Shanghai women overpowered men, The Yankees are rather harsh or mean, and in Tokyo people mind their own business. So people's relationship are very fragile in such big cities, and there are not much warmth between strangers.
For example, Japan is a group oriented country and Japanese value friends/community higher than a single partner.
The residents of such big cities almost tacitly have a mutual understanding to react to each other. They usually put romantic relationship at the last of their priorities.
What puzzled me was, why do you want a relationship if it has less priority than friends?
Possible explanations include:
>Friends are there no matter what, relationships come and go.
>Relationships are temporary, until you found the right one.
>Relationships are fragile and might hurt you, so it's better to keep distance and casual.
If a romantic relationship is not to be consider for long term partner, then it might be merely for temporary physical and mental satisfaction. You just need someone there to care or "care" when you need them, and when you don't have time or have better things to do, you will prioritize.
Many of you might feel bizarre or might feel like there's a bell ringing in your head.
But what I'm driving here is, people from huge cities might prefer to adopt this mindset. I surveyed a friend that lived in a same country but not the big city and he has a completely different viewpoint from my observation of the big city syndrome.
I was born and raised in the largest city in Malaysia, with a population around 1.9 million. Relatively small compare to these Megacities, but I do feel the need of being casual, since there are so many things more to life. However, in my opinion the point of having a romantic relationship does mean prioritizing my partner over my general friends.
Life > Family > Close Buddies > or = Romantic Partner > General Friends
This big city syndrome is fine, as long as you go along with it. But if you're going at it coming from a warmer(not climate wise) place or an outsider's POV, be aware of the clash of behaviors. It'll take time to understand it, and if you do live in these Megacities, you might eventually adopt the mindset and become one of them.
In 'my' nut shell, I guess this phenom is circumstantial, but overall it's not healthy because human are selfish social animal. It might reach a point that human just have sex for the sake of recreation but not reproduction. Ahhhh~ maybe that explains dropping birth-rate in certain cities.
Guten Tag my friends, you guys are almost par with my close buddies now! Appreciate it!
(I'm single! ;P)
**PS: If you read the original post, I am sorry that MY opinion is generalizing certain culture or cities and thus I amended some details.**
Today's topic is - big city syndrome.
In a big city, life is hectic and everyone has so much going on.
You will need friends with you, and you fall back to your family, and you are struggling to live your own life.
So where does this situation position your romantic partner or relationship?
People from big city are light and casual in relationship. Well, casual here does not mean casually make love, or since it's casual, should just label it as sexual intercourse. But casual as in not giving too much priority in romantic relationship.
I worship the casual idea all along. I insist that one person can fall in love with multiple people at the same time. However, keeping too much distance with a romantic partner might make it Lust rather than Love.
*Picture does not depict specific city in question*New York, Tokyo, or Shanghai has a population more than 10million people.
What am I coming to?
In my opinion, Shanghai women overpowered men, The Yankees are rather harsh or mean, and in Tokyo people mind their own business. So people's relationship are very fragile in such big cities, and there are not much warmth between strangers.
For example, Japan is a group oriented country and Japanese value friends/community higher than a single partner.
The residents of such big cities almost tacitly have a mutual understanding to react to each other. They usually put romantic relationship at the last of their priorities.
What puzzled me was, why do you want a relationship if it has less priority than friends?
Possible explanations include:
>Friends are there no matter what, relationships come and go.
>Relationships are temporary, until you found the right one.
>Relationships are fragile and might hurt you, so it's better to keep distance and casual.
If a romantic relationship is not to be consider for long term partner, then it might be merely for temporary physical and mental satisfaction. You just need someone there to care or "care" when you need them, and when you don't have time or have better things to do, you will prioritize.
Many of you might feel bizarre or might feel like there's a bell ringing in your head.
But what I'm driving here is, people from huge cities might prefer to adopt this mindset. I surveyed a friend that lived in a same country but not the big city and he has a completely different viewpoint from my observation of the big city syndrome.
I was born and raised in the largest city in Malaysia, with a population around 1.9 million. Relatively small compare to these Megacities, but I do feel the need of being casual, since there are so many things more to life. However, in my opinion the point of having a romantic relationship does mean prioritizing my partner over my general friends.
Life > Family > Close Buddies > or = Romantic Partner > General Friends
This big city syndrome is fine, as long as you go along with it. But if you're going at it coming from a warmer(not climate wise) place or an outsider's POV, be aware of the clash of behaviors. It'll take time to understand it, and if you do live in these Megacities, you might eventually adopt the mindset and become one of them.
In 'my' nut shell, I guess this phenom is circumstantial, but overall it's not healthy because human are selfish social animal. It might reach a point that human just have sex for the sake of recreation but not reproduction. Ahhhh~ maybe that explains dropping birth-rate in certain cities.
Guten Tag my friends, you guys are almost par with my close buddies now! Appreciate it!
(I'm single! ;P)
**PS: If you read the original post, I am sorry that MY opinion is generalizing certain culture or cities and thus I amended some details.**
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